Puccini Ardillo, an Ode to a Fine Dog

After a brief illness attributed to old age, Puccini Ardillo, born February 8, 2007, passed away on October 31, 2022, in the loving arms of his family. A dog of many monikers, he was known as the little prince, boo boo, Pucci, and rascal. He is survived by Michelle and Tom, and his sissies Margaret and Madeline, who spent many hours playing with him during their breaks from college. He is also survived by his “other sissies” Kate, Danielle, and Jaqueline. 

Before becoming a member of the Ardillo household, Puccini lived with Sister Marie de Sales, SSND, for four years. When Sister Marie had to move away from the area in 2011, she graciously gifted Puccini to the Ardillos, and as with all open adoptions, Sister Marie is now a dear friend of the family. As first-time dog owners, Tom and Michelle quickly adapted to Puccini’s schedule and spent more time outdoors, walking the neighborhood and meeting people up and down the street. Puccini will be fondly remembered by his neighborhood friends: Kevin the contractor, the Yorks, the Foxes, Tom across the street, Bob down the street, and Susan, as well as frenemies Belle and Indy, the late Audrey, Luna,  Zoe, Charlie the Maine coon, grey Cooper, the late brown Cooper, Bailey, the late Lubby, the late Smokey Ardillo, and many others. 

When Tom and Michelle traveled, Puccini was fortunate enough to vacation with good friends Joe and Mary Ann, whose daughter Teresa was responsible for introducing Tom and Michelle to Sister Marie, even though Teresa thought he was a West Highland White Terrier instead of the glorious specimen of a Maltipoo that he was.

In his later years, Puccini became quite the picky eater, sampling and rejecting the finest wet and dry prescription dog foods money can buy. His favorite foods were rotisserie chicken from Don Pollo’s, Kraft’s singles, McDonald’s fries, and white basmati rice made in Michelle’s rice cooker. Always a snazzy dresser, Puccini favored his turquoise blue owl sweater gifted to him by his sissie Margaret. He detested, however, his army green rain jacket. A champion napper, he loved sleeping on his sofa in the den, with his blue blankie and squishy pillow, or on the couch in the living room, nestled in Michelle’s tartan blanket from Scotland. He spent every night happily sleeping on his orange bandana quilt in Michelle and Tom’s bed, taking up as much room as possible for a 15-pound dog, causing Michelle to sleep in various positions resembling punctuation marks. 

Puccini loved his morning walks with Tom, unmaking freshly made beds, rearranging throw pillows, standing stock still on the patio with the wind in his hair and the sun on his face, laying on Tom in the recliner while they pretended to “watch” tv but were really snoozing, crossing the street in the dark of night for his last trip out before bedtime, and summer time when Michelle was home all day with him. He loved when his sissies visited, Margaret shouting “PUCCINI” as soon as she came in the door, and Maddie snuggling with him on his sofa while she wrote stories on her laptop. He loved sitting in on all of Michelle’s zoom tutoring sessions, scoring perfect attendance during the pandemic when Michelle taught from home. Her students loved seeing him on zoom, as he listened with rapt attention as Michelle reviewed comma rules or explained the differences between foreshadowing and red herrings. 

His dislikes were legendary in the neighborhood as he battled daily with the onslaught of delivery trucks on his street: the brown one, the white one, and most particularly, the red, white, and blue one. He could hear or smell a mail carrier half a block away and would wait attentively at the window or door for the danger that lurked ahead as the mail was placed in his box. Years ago he made his peace with the squirrels and deer, but the little dark brown chipmunk on his patio continued to vex him all the days of his life. 

He will be greatly missed by all who knew him, but most of all by Michelle and Tom, who adored him and will never forget him. They take comfort in a statement made by Pope Paul VI who said, “One day, we will see our animals again in the eternity of Christ.” Rest in peace, little prince, rest in peace. 

The Elephant in the Room

puccini on stairs newAs my regular readers may know, I have always been a cat person although currently I am the catless owner of an eight-year-old Maltipoo named Puccini. In fact, my very first essay published on Cajun Girl in a Kilt was “License to Carry”, a tongue-in-cheek essay about Puccini’s reluctance to go up and down the stairs of our two-story home. He is mostly cured of that but still sporadically will climb to the fourth step from the top and wait there, whining, hoping someone will come and carry him the rest of the way up. Even though Puccini has been a major part of our lives for six years now, and in many ways has improved our quality of life, I still miss having a cat and often toy with the idea of getting another one.

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Charlie and Puccini

There are several cats in my neighborhood, but the leading male character of Briarwood Terrace is Charlie, a beautiful long-haired tabby tom cat who prowls up and down the street, in and out of yards, on and off of porches, and back and forth from underneath our parked cars. He is very clever and has escaped direct contact with automobiles although he occasionally can be spotted with minor wounds indicating he has been involved in some sort of scrape, obviously with someone or something that doesn’t know he is the “mayor” of our street. When I am out walking Puccini and I see Charlie basking in the sun in his own driveway, I always stop to pet him. Puccini is now used to this minor detour and the two of them no longer hiss and growl at one another.

My reoccurring desire to have another cat in my life, particularly strong right now, makes me think of one of Ernest Hemingway’s short stories, “Cat in the Rain”. This very short story is indicative of Hemingway’s writing style, lean and tough prose, with only enough dialogue and details to give the reader the bare minimum required to follow the story line, or at least the surface level of the story line. It’s up to the reader to dive deeper into the subtext to discover what lies beneath. Hemingway himself coined a term for this structure, the iceberg theory.

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Asiago, Italy, WWI War Memorial

“Cat in the Rain” is the story of an American couple traveling in Italy. As usual, Hemingway doesn’t tell us where in Italy, but we know it is on the coast since the hotel faces the sea, and we know there is a war memorial in the center of town that is a tourist attraction, even for Italians themselves. We also don’t initially know the names of the Americans, they are only referred to as the husband and the wife. In the courtyard of the hotel there is a cat, crouched under a table in the rain trying to stay dry. The wife is looking out of the hotel room window at the cat while the husband lies on the bed reading.

Hemingway devotes valuable space in the exposition of the story to make sure the reader understands the emptiness of the setting. They are the only two Americans in the hotel. They don’t know anyone and don’t make any effort to meet the other guests. Because of the rain, there are no artists out with their easels and sketchpads. The parking lot is empty. The town square is empty. The courtyard is empty—except for the cat and a waiter, standing in the doorway of a café looking out at the empty square.

The wife goes out to get the cat out of the rain. She encounters the hotel-keeper, the padrone, and here Hemingway allows us a bit deeper, in the way he tells us what the American woman thinks of the padrone, what she likes about him, what she feels about him. The padrone makes her feel important, and when he sees that she is going to go out in the rain into the courtyard, he sends a maid after her with an umbrella. The American woman knows the padrone has sent the maid, to shield her from the rain, to take care of her, unlike her husband who remains upstairs on the bed reading.

When she is unable to find the cat, she returns upstairs, empty-handed. Her husband, whom we now know is called George, makes small talk with her about the cat and about her hair, after she says she wants to let it grow out, so that she doesn’t look like a boy anymore. She continues to carry on about her hair and the cat, and how she wants to have a cat to hold and pet. She branches out in her whining and talks about wanting new clothes and wanting to have dinner at a table with real silverware and candles. Eventually her husband grows weary of her whining and tells her, “Oh, shut up and get something to read”. She pauses but does not stop…she starts up again with how much she wants a cat, and if she can’t have the things she really wants, then she wants a cat.

Obviously this story is not about a cat. It is not about an American woman wanting to rescue a kitty from the rain in a hotel in Italy. This story is more about what it is NOT about than what it IS about. Most agree that this story is about a woman who is feeling empty and unfulfilled, about a woman who wants to be loved and cared for, about a woman who wants to have a baby to love and hold and pet. Her unhappiness with her life and her marriage is the elephant in the room, not the cat in the rain.

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Family Photo, Christmas Eve, 2015

I can’t identify with the American woman who has an empty life and an unhappy marriage, who longs for a baby. I am happily married with a full and rich life, and I have two wonderful daughters whom I loved and cherished as babies and whom I now love and cherish as young adults. But, the elephant in my room is that they are no longer my babies, they are young women who are living their own lives, seeking their own happiness, walking their own paths, creating their own dreams. In a blink of an eye, we went from sippy cups, play dates, and bedtime stories to college graduations, tax returns, and different zip codes. In spite of my confidence that they are well-grounded, bright, intelligent, loving individuals who will go out into the world and be successful, it is still heart-wrenching at times to want to turn back the clock and draw them closer, hold them a bit longer, as they go farther away from us, into their own space and time.

In today’s society, there is much talk of the empty nest, and much of it is positive, the middle-aged couple with fewer responsibilities and perhaps a bit more disposable income, combined with the free time, energy, and flexibility that did not exist with young children at home. In “Cat in the Rain”, however, Hemingway described the empty courtyard, the empty parking lot, the empty town square, all to establish a foundation for the woman’s yearning for a baby, for a loving marriage, for a full nest, not an empty one. It was not about a cat.

How Sixteen Pounds Changed My Life

In the fall of 2011, I was driving to work, chatting happily with my car pool. Even though my daughters were both away at college, I ferried two high school girls, family friends of ours, to the neighborhood where I teach so they could walk to their school each morning. One day in the school neighborhood, we saw a woman walking her dog and I remarked, “Look at that adorable dog. I’ve always wanted a Westie.” One of the girls then responded that they knew someone looking for a good home for a Westie. Would I be interested?

My mind raced. I had always been told that Westies were very territorial and being a terrier, had been bred to hunt for small furry things, so a Westie plus a cat normally does not equal a happy household. I also thought of my husband and his reaction to this proposal. We had talked about having a dog before, and he had always been opposed to it.

I’ve always been a cat person. It seems there was always a cat in my life, even as a little girl. We had an outdoor cat named Pencil when I was growing up. His name came from the scar on his forehead, which was shaped exactly like a pencil. Pencil was very unusual in that he did not care for cat food, but loved leftover vegetables from our family dinners. I remember bringing out a paper plate of broccoli for him many times.

I also had a white Persian cat named Princess. She was most definitely an indoor cat, with regal bearing to match her name, and beautiful long hair that shed everywhere. My mother had always been opposed to having an indoor pet, but once she was given to me, it was obvious that she had to be kept indoors, and she was resigned to my bedroom. One morning as my dad left for work, she unknowingly crept out with him, and fell in the drainage canal behind our house. She was found later, covered in oil. She did not survive her foray into the outdoors.

We had another cat, whose name escapes me, when one of my brothers was still in diapers. My mother had developed a system for taking his dirty cloth diapers out of the house; she would open the kitchen door to the garage and throw the diaper the short distance to the washing machine, where she would leave the washing machine lid open. Once she had accumulated enough for a load, she would then go into the garage, add soap, close the lid, and turn the machine on. One day, she followed her procedure, but within minutes of the washing machine filling with hot water and starting to agitate, we could hear a terrible noise coming from the garage. My mother knew instantly what had happened. The cat had crawled up inside the back of the washing machine and was caught in the machinery. She ran out to the garage and turned the washing machine off. The cat screeching continued.

We were all crying and carrying on and my dad was away at work so she called my Uncle Guy, who owned a grocery store in my hometown. My Uncle Guy told her it was probably too late to save the cat, and since it was late in the day, she should just wait for my dad to get home. Eventually the cat screeching stopped, and our own screeching became louder and louder, knowing what this meant.

My dad was not happy to come home from a long day at work to this news. The situation worsened when she told him that the washing machine was full of dirty diapers, detergent, and now tepid water. He changed clothes and went out to the garage, cursing and muttering about the task at hand of first emptying the washer and then turning it on its side to sort out the mangled cat remains that await him. He set a bucket on the garage floor next to the washer and opened the lid of the washing machine to start removing the dirty diapers. Out flew the cat, soaking wet and very smelly, clawing my dad in the process of making his escape. He had been inside the washer the whole time, not mangled in the machinery.

In the early 80s I arrived at my office for work early one morning. I unlocked the front door and went in, heading straight for the coffee pot, to start the first pot of the day. I could hear a soft mewing sound coming from the ladies’ bathroom near the coffee station. There to my surprise I found a beautiful Persian cat. I called the local vets to see if anyone had reported a lost cat and then took her home with me, after purchasing a litter box and cat food. I put signs up in the neighborhood surrounding the office building, but received no calls. The cleaning people reported that the cat was always hanging around the office building in the late afternoons when they were coming in to clean and she must have snuck in when they were bringing in their cleaning supplies. I named her Muffin and had her checked out by the vet, who said she was either a full pedigree or close to it. She was a Russian blue and absolutely beautiful.

One of my neighbors found out I had adopted a Persian and asked if I was interested in breeding as he had a pedigree male. Eventually Muffin was declared pregnant and gave birth to two miniscule things that did not look like kittens at all. Not only did I think they looked like aliens, she thought so, too, and abandoned them at the bottom of my stairs, near the return vent for the air conditioner. I put them in a shoe box and brought them to the vet who told me they were weak and sickly, which is why she abandoned them. I fed them with an eyedropper day and night for several days before they both died.

My neighbor was not put off by this, not surprising since he hadn’t handfed those little creatures for several days only to have them die. Eventually we tried again, and this time Muffin proved to be a very attentive mother to four absolutely beautiful Persian kittens, three white like their father, and one Russian blue like his mother. I kept him and named him Mozart, as I had just recently seen the 1984 Academy Award winning movie Amadeus. He proved to be as irascible as Tom Hulce’s representation of the famous composer. One day, upon arriving home from work, I found my Christmas tree lying on its side, ornaments rolling around everywhere, and one charcoal grey ball of fur still clinging to the bark of the tree. Muffin was perched on the arm of the sofa, an apparently innocent bystander, as if to say to me, “I had nothing to do with that.”

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Muffin and Mozart

He was my baby, though, long before I had babies of my own. While Muffin had always been somewhat aloof, typical of most cats, Mozart was very affectionate and very much aware that I had been sitting on the floor next to the box the minute he was born. When I drove up the driveway of my house after work, he would be waiting at the front door, and when I opened that door, I better be ready to catch him, because he would leap up into my arms. He would crawl up so that he could rub his head against my face, putting his paws around my neck like he was hugging me.

When Muffin died in 1992, he became even more attached to me, even though I had a two-year old and a newborn baby to care for.  Timing could not have been worse. I had been visiting a friend one Saturday when I was nine months pregnant with my second daughter. When I returned home, my husband sat me down at the dining room table and gave me a grilled cheese sandwich. I told him I wasn’t really hungry, as I had already had lunch, but he insisted that I eat at least some of it. (Somehow, the grilled cheese sandwich was supposed to make the impending bad news easier to swallow.) He then told me that he had brought Muffin to the vet because he had found her lying next to the washing machine (those damn washing machines) in a very strange position and somewhat non-responsive. The vet had examined her and said that she was in pain with a mass in her stomach. So off to the vet we went, with me nearly hysterical over the death of my cat, and full of late pregnancy hormones. Maddie was born on Monday morning, amidst tears of joy of a safe delivery, relief over a healthy baby, and grief over my sweet Muffin, all mingling together.

Mozart met the same fate as his mother, although the mass in his stomach was preceded by kidney and heart disease, and at one point, he was taking the same blood pressure medication and fluid pills as my mother. After he died, I found it difficult to walk into my bedroom in the evening, imagining him asleep in the rocking chair where I nursed my daughters and rocked them to sleep. We eventually adopted Smokey, another charcoal grey Persian, who had the distinction of accompanying us overseas for our two years in Belgium, making his transatlantic flights in his carrier under the seat in front of me.

PucciniSmokey was eleven years old when my high school friends told me about this “Westie” that was up for adoption. The Westie was supposedly two years old and very sweet. Initially my husband said no to the whole idea, firing away with all the obvious reasons not to get a dog: who will walk him, what will we do with him when we go out of town, how would he get along with Smokey? My young friends soon reported back that a home had been found for the Westie so the matter was put to rest. For a brief period, that is.

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The ubiquitous “selfie”

Several weeks went by when they reported one morning in the car that the original plan had fallen through and the dog was still up for adoption. Oh, and his name was Puccini. This is when I thought that fate was knocking at my door. I had named a cat Mozart, after all. My husband had studied music in college as a voice major. This dog was in perfect health, was being given away with all of his accoutrements, our friends had always dog-sat for him when the owner had gone out of town, and they said they would continue to do so for us as well. It seemed too good to be true, so we decided to investigate further.

Sister Marie and Puccini

Sister Marie and Puccini

An appointment was made for us to meet Puccini and his owner, Sister Marie, a Catholic nun who was returning to her convent in Connecticut after living and working in the DC area. The dog, which we learned was not a Westie but a Maltipoo, was four years old, not two. Sister Marie brought him over for a visit, and then a few days later, she brought him to us to keep him over the 2011 Thanksgiving holiday as a test run. She wanted to be sure we were the right family for him, especially since we had not owned a dog before, and we all wanted to see if he and Smokey would get along.

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Stand-off on the stairs: Smokey vs. Puccini

The trial run went well. He is an adorable little scamp and very entertaining. Our girls came home from college and we all enjoyed playing with him. His number one priority, however, was eating the cat’s food, and mucking about in Smokey’s litter box. We had to purchase baby gates and devise elaborate systems to keep him out of Smokey’s area. We also had to ensure they were not left alone together because Puccini desperately wanted to get up close and personal, and Smokey wanted absolutely none of it.


Agree to disagree, napping in the afternoon sun

The spitting and hissing did not seem to deter Puccini, and they frequently were in stand-off positions on opposite sides of the sofa in the den, or at opposite ends of the stairs.

Again, however, timing could not be worse, and as we were packing our car to drive to Pittsburgh for our older daughter’s college graduation, with our elderly fathers in tow, we found Smokey lying in that now familiar awkward position, not wanting to get up to eat or drink. We waited at the vet’s for the doors to open and one of the technicians called the vet at home to discuss the situation. The vet said he was on his way in to examine him, and ordered an x-ray in the meantime, when Smokey passed away.

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What a sweetie!

And then there was one. He is now the king of the household, the little prince as my husband sometimes calls him. Four years on, he has us all wrapped around his little paw. He is smart as a whip and very protective of our house and yard. He loves everyone he meets, with the exception of anyone in a mail truck or walking the neighborhood carrying a mail bag.

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Puccini and Fr. Ken Gill, after the blessing of the animals

He is on a daily mission to catch a squirrel, scare away the deer that frequent our yard, advise us, with fierce growls, of any new lawn decorations or suspicious garbage containers that appear on our street, and always, on red alert for any brown dogs. He is sixteen pounds of pure energy and charming personality.

Puccini Prince of WalesA year ago when I embarked on this “essay a week for one year” project, my first essay published on my brand new website was about Puccini. It’s only fitting that, as my year-long mission to becoming a writer comes to a close, I write about Puccini once more. As I write my essays each Sunday, he is on the love seat in our home office, my constant companion, my little shadow. He follows me from room to room all day long and sleeps pressed up against my side each night.

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My shadow, watching me write

While I will always love cats, as evidenced by the cat knickknacks and art work displayed all around my house, he has turned me into a dog person, and he has hands down won the heart of my husband as well. He is the reason this die-hard couch potato goes out for walks in all sorts of weather, which has helped me improve my own health. daily walkAnd, even more significantly, even though we had lived in our house for seven years when we first adopted him, we knew almost no one on our street. Now, with our many doggie walks throughout the day, we have become friendly with our neighbors up and down the street, both those with dogs and those without.  We gave him a home, but he made us at home in our own neighborhood.